Hello Fordham Graduate
World and beyond!
Yesterday, I had a small
break from my dissertation writing to meet with a former student of mine who
requested a recommendation from me. This is my third rec request in the last
few weeks – with grad school programs, summer internship, and scholarship
applications due in January, Feb and March, I’m calling this RECOMMENDATION
LETTER season!
I really don’t mind
taking the time out of my allotted dissertation time to fit in these meetings
and letter writings for students. It’s actually interesting how much I don’t
mind it. I get annoyed at floods on the FDR as I sit in traffic because it
takes time away from me finishing my diss. I get annoyed when my dad tells a
long story and it takes time away from finishing my diss. I get annoyed at my
washing my hair because it takes time away from finishing my diss. But when I
get a letter to write a recommendation, there is no sigh of annoyance as I
re-arrange, and subtract hours from, my weekly writing schedule. Why??
Having been a teaching
associate for a few years now, I’ve had dozens of students now – maybe close to
a couple hundred? (Let’s see… 7 or 8 semesters, one or occasionally two classes
per semester, 16 -20 students per class…. I’m no math major, but I know that is
getting close to about 200!) I wanted to blog about this subject of writing
recs for students because I’ve always felt some kind of obligatory generosity
in doing the deed, and I wanted to come to terms with that oxymoronic feeling I
always get.
For starters, I never
feel that I am being kind when I agree to write a former student a letter.
Though not written in any contract or job description, it’s nonetheless an
obligation, a duty. But the feeling I get when I am asked to do it is a strange mix of resigned
obligation and parental generosity, as if I am a mother finding a way to work
an extra job at night to send her child to college.
It’s part of the job, I
tell myself. But there are plenty of things that are part of the job that I
have a much harder time motivating myself to do. Grading student papers, for
example, is most certainly a most obvious and required part of the job, yet it
is somehow much harder to motivate myself to do that than it is to write a rec.
Obligatory generosity
–that’s not the best description of the emotion either. Duty, yes, but it makes
it sound so formal and noble. It’s not noble because it’s not an altruistic
feeling that I get – it’s a feeling of responsibility. Responsibility might be
a good word here, actually. It’s a feeling, mostly, of knowing that no matter
what, I owe the universe these letters, because someone else did it for me, who
owed it back to the universe because someone did it for them. It’s like being a
part of some cosmic network of students that reaches back infinitely into
generations past.
Paula Findlen, a professor of history at Stanford
University, says that writing a recommendation letter for one of our students
is “one of the most important acts of mentorship that we offer younger
scholars.” Findlen also describes it as a “mutual project between the
recommender and applicant,” and I agree to some extent. Findlen reasons, “We
cannot do a good job without good material to write from, and the time in which
to do it.” (Click here for Findlen’s article.) But in another way, it’s
reciprocal in a larger sense – I’ve requested many letters from professors I’ve
had, and they’ve needed letters from their professors, etc, etc. It’s like a
big tree, or ripples in a pond, or a chain, or pyramid, etc, etc, insert
inaccurate and clichéd metaphor here.
Writing letters always
makes me think not only of the relationship between me and my students, but also
the one between my professors and me. I know that when I go on the job market,
the letters will be an important piece of my package. So it just feels wrong,
or impossible really, to refuse, to be stingy, and to resent writing a letter
for a student. A graduate student is in the unique position of being an
instructor in the classroom and a student at the same time. This liminal
feeling is often confusing. For me, personally, writing a student a letter is
one of the only acts that puts the whole scope of the academic ladder in
perspective. I’d love to hear how other grad students feel about this! Send me a comment and let me know!
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